Fine line between yes or no

‘There are many talented people who haven’t fulfilled their dreams because they over-thought it, or they were too cautious, and were unwilling to make the leap of faith.’ James Cameron

Sometimes the journey we want to take gets diverted. A setback if you will or a temptation put in your path to confuse, leaving you with a decision to make: take a chance and stay on course, or play it safe.

It’s tough enough to believe in yourself when few around you do and it’s tougher still to stay the course when so many want you to remain in the “this is enough” club.

It seems when you identify the work you can’t not do and take a leap of faith to follow it, it makes others nervous when you return to the fold. Refreshed and with a renewed sense of purpose that has put life into perspective, you’re often met with suspicion, even derision.

3555228460_216541cd89_bTrying to get a foot back into the nine-to-five door after a year-and-a-half pursuing a dream overseas has been tough to say the least. Sure, that dream will still be pursued on a part-time basis but that’s perhaps where the problem lies. People don’t trust that you’re 100 per cent committed to the job you’re applying for. Amazingly they distrust your motives.

Instead of celebrating an opportunity that broadened your skills and gave you a better understanding even inside edge into an evolving workplace, it’s seen as a betrayal to those who remained behind.

I guess it is the times we are in. With unemployment set to rise above 6.5 per cent in Australia and a print media industry in turmoil as thousands are laid off to accommodate the coming of the digital era, the message is clear. Be prepared to accept whatever’s going at whatever price. Be grateful to even get considered for a look-in. Don’t mention other interests.

During a recent job discussion that left me wondering whether the company was interested in hiring given two weeks had passed without a firm offer, I decided I should move on to finding work elsewhere. So when I forced the issue by stating there were other things I could pursue, it sent the person negotiating with me over the edge. It wasn’t meant to.

As one friend said, the universe is telling you to wait or miss out on an offer to participate! In hindsight, I obviously viewed it as a diversion that stopped me focusing on the things I really wanted to do.

During this time of applying, waiting, applying for more jobs, waiting longer still, I spent the time wisely gaining new skills from online courses which culminated in the book I hoped to publish being accepted on Amazon’s Kindle platform.

So when all job hopes dried up at least I would have something positive to hang onto and perhaps a new skill base to pursue!

Judy Wilkinson is a freelance journalist, blogger and more recently children’s author after securing self-publishing rights with Amazon.

Thank you for your comments!

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.